What I Learned from Tina Fey

Tina Fey is my lady heroine and I don’t mean I want to smoke her and listen to jazz. I recently got to attend a Q&A with Tina Fey at the Orpheum Theatre in San Francisco, talking about her new book, Bossypants, and discussing her creative processes. She’s an amazing lady—funny, smart, and she’s not afraid to be a nerd. Between her talk and her new book, I’ve learned a few things.

A writer is a writer. During her Q&A, the moderator asked her what it’s like working with mostly male writers at SNL and then 30 Rock. Her response, “Have you seen male comedy writers? They’re not strong,” made me laugh out loud, because it’s true (ahem, I am married to one.). The lesson? Don’t be intimated by other writers. Even if they’re dudes.

Negative comments about you are only fodder for comedy. Fey dedicates a whole chapter of her book called “Dear Internet” to writing back to commenters online who called her an ugly troll, said she wasn’t funny, or made fun of her scar. She “writes” back to them in with such wit and humor, it totally disarms these negative comments. I love it. So often, there are crazy negative comments online from Facebook, blogs, Twitter, it can make you sick. But by making fun of it, it makes it more hilarious.

Make statements. She has a great section in her book about using what she learned in improv comedy and using it in real life. For instance, Make Statements in improv are when you speak in statements rather than apologetic questions. She writes, “Make statements, with your actions and your voice.” So instead of saying, I think I’m a writer?”, say “I am a writer.” Get it?

Lastly, when having a bad day, watch some 30 Rock. Tina didn’t say this, but this is exactly what I do. Whether I’m feeling ill or just need a pick-me-up, I throw on my DVD set of any season of 30 Rock, and hit Play All. Bad day, be gone.

If you haven’t picked up a copy of Bossypants yet, go now!

How I Landed My Dream Job

I’ve worked at nonprofits, as a teacher (briefly), and producing legal newsletters. But it wasn’t until I thought about what I really wanted that I landed my dream job as an associate editor at VegNews magazine. I wanted to share this story because I know how hard it is do what we really want to do. It’s much easier to settle. Settle for a paycheck. Settle for a job we don’t mind, but don’t love.

I moved to LA to be with my then-fiancé, now husband from NYC. I hated LA at first. But it kicked my butt. I got a high-paying job at an education nonprofit, but I was miserable. After I quit, I didn’t know where to look next but one thing I did know was that I wasn’t going to work any more where I was unhappy. So I made a list of my dream jobs. When I was a kid, I wanted to be the editor-in-chief of People magazine. I made my mom a magazine for Mother’s Day when I was little. I loved reading magazines. So I enrolled in some basic magazine writing classes and started pitching. I found an editorial assistant position at a trade photography magazine, Rangefinder, and learned magazines from the ground up. Then we moved again. Brendan landed his dream job at Lucasfilms and I was once again confronted with what did I want to do. I freelanced and took the time to expand my portfolio. Then my dream job opened up. As soon as I saw the job listing on Craigslist for an associate editor at VegNews, I ran home and typed up a cover letter and sent my resume. I got an interview, then was asked to write up some ideas. I spent my entire weekend working on them. I had my friend Rita edit my work. I knew that every word mattered. When you’re applying for an editor position, it doesn’t look great when you don’t even edit your own work. So after a third interview, I landed the job. I love it. It’s hard work but every day I’m challenged, I’m writing, and I help put together a fantastic magazine.

I didn’t get here easily. I’m still writing and freelancing while balancing a full-time job. But I couldn’t ask for anything better.

I spent quite a few years post-college working at places that didn’t fulfill me. I had doubts. I dealt with rejections, and definitely made mistakes. The pinnacle moment for me happened when I was jobless, lonely, and new to LA. Brendan was on the WGA writers’ strike. We had no income, two cars, and were planning a wedding. I went out for a walk. I was frustrated. Then I saw an entire unopened package of paper sitting on the sidewalk. I stopped and picked up the ream of a paper. I saw it as a sign. I had to get back to writing. No matter what. A month later, I got my first magazine job and sold a pitch to Every Day with Rachael Ray.

It’s hard to be a writer. Some times it can be lonely. It takes discipline. I’ve cried over rejections and wanted to quit. But I hung in there. And so should you. Whatever your dream job is, work towards it and take it one step at a time. You can do it.

UPDATE (3/22/11): I’ve been so amazed how much this post has really struck a chord with people. I’ve gotten so many positive responses. So thank you for reading. I hope what I’ve said sticks with you and that you will continue to pursue your dreams no matter what.

What YA I’ve Just Read: The DUFF by Kody Keplinger


The DUFF. The Designated Ugly Fat Friend. This debut novel by Kody Keplinger deals with what’s it like being called the DUFF and then falling for the very guy who called you the DUFF. Bianca Piper is cynical and lonely. And she thinks her best friends are beautiful and she is not. When Wesley Rush, a notorious flirt and hook-up king, gives her the nickname of the DUFF, Bianca hates him for it. They develop a love/hate relationship that ends up developing as Bianca and Wesley learn more about each other.

As a girl who felt like the DUFF in high school, I think every girl feels this way at some point—that her friends are prettier and that she’ll be alone for the rest of her life. (Especially when her friends are all stick skinny.) I thought Bianca was funny, smart, real, and just like most of us did in high school, feels ugly. Her relationship with Wesley develops naturally and I even grew to like Wesley (which is saying something since he came up with the disgusting nickname).

The only moments that I thought were unrealistic were Bianca’s moments with her alcoholic father. Those family moments wrap and resolve rather quickly for someone who has been sober for so long.

What I enjoyed the most was seeing Bianca grow up and the bond that she has with her “prettier” friends. The girls are real friends and their relationship makes the book more than just an “I-feel-ugly” story.

I highly recommend THE DUFF. Kody’s second book, Shut Out, is due out September 2011. I’m looking forward to reading more from this young, talented author.

Why Every Writer Needs an Editor

Now that I’m an editor at one of my favorite magazines, VegNews, I’m more acutely aware of why every writer needs an editor. As funny and as witty as we are as writers, we make mistakes. We get too insular. We forget that not everyone understands every single thing we write down.

As a freelancer writer, I strive to turn in the best version of an article to my editor. But I’m still going to miss something. A better quote, transitions, even content that a reader needs. When an editor asks for minor or extensive edits, I make myself available and I take my ego out of the equation because the truth is the editor wants your writing to be the best it can be for publication. Heck, he or she isn’t getting my byline, but they want their magazine to be awesome.

I say this because maybe you’re not a magazine writer. You think, how does this even apply to me? It applies to writers because you need someone else to read your work. Whether it’s a screenplay, a sketch, an outline, five pages of a nonfiction novel, you need someone you trust to say hey, this doesn’t make any sense. Or this is what I’m getting.

You need that outside perspective. One of my best working relationships has been with my literary agent, Michelle Andelman. She is brilliant. She tells me when things are working (and she glows about them when they do) and she’s honest when something is dragging my writing down—whether it’s a character, story line, or sections of prose. Every note she gives me is like a little gold nugget.

So, my friends, find your editor. Shower your editor with kindness. And above all else, listen to them.

My Favorite Etsy Shops

Just before the holidays, I went to the Renegade Craft Fair in San Francisco and was in love with all of the great designers and crafters that I met. There are some seriously talented folks out there. So here are a few of my favorite Etsy shops that I recently discovered.

HOMAKO
Adorable fabric and felt necklaces. Her style is very Anthropologie without the hefty price tag.

FINCH DESIGNS
Comfortable yet sexy clothes. I bought a blue and yellow dress, a black t-shirt, and a teal custom-made top. All of them are so nicely designed and seriously comfortable.

RAEDUNN
Simple, beautiful pottery. Something you would see in Real Simple magazine. Stunning, really.

GLASS CATHEDRALS
Lisa Swerling is an artist who makes the coolest diorama-type art. You just have to see it to understand. So click on her website and be prepared to be amazed.

JENJEWELRY
I love jewelry. I can’t get enough. Her jewelry is so exquisite. You can tell that it takes time to make these pieces.

Why shop handmade? 1. You’re supporting an artist. 2. You’re getting a quality handmade item, not some manufactured piece. 3. You get something unique.

I can’t tell you how much I love artists and their work. What are some of your favorite Etsy shops? Please share. So you can feed my addiction to all things handmade.

Introduction to Magazine Writing

Quite a few people email me about how to break into magazine writing or how to get published in a magazine. So instead of answering each email individually, I thought it was better to write a blog post and let everyone share in the information. And if you’ve written for magazines, please add your comments below! As a magazine editor and writer, here are my best tips for breaking through to magazines.

How I broke in. I started by taking an online class through the Woodhull Institute and then Mediabistro.com. I knew nothing so I spent money learning from instructors who had actually written for major national publications. After my first online class with Kristin Kemp, I sold my very first article to Bust magazine about young women becoming nuns. Learn from people who know more than you.

What I’ve learned. It’s a tough business but I love it. I’ve loved magazines since my first issue of Sassy, YM, and Seventeen arrived in my mailbox. So love it first because the passion for the written word in a glossy format will get you through the not-so-great times like when an editor never gets back to you, your pitch gets rejected, or every word of yours is rewritten.

Subscribe to your favorite magazines. How can you ever expect to write for the magazines you like if you never read them? So pick out a few you absolutely love and subscribe to them. My current subscriptions: VegNews, Real Simple, Bust, New York, Entertainment Weekly, Time, and Every Day with Rachael Ray. I’ve written for three of those publications. If you can’t subscribe, go to your local library and sit down with some issues.

Networking. Editors work with writers they trust and know. Introduce yourself over email with a GREAT pitch. Ask your friends if they know of any editors they can introduce you to over email. Go to a Mediabistro Media Party and meet editors. Get on LinkedIn and connect with editors.

Read at least 3 back issues and take notes. Editors LOVE it when you know their publication. Like how they write their headlines. What’s featured on their cover. Do they write snarky like Esquire or have a more service-orientated focus like Real Simple? Sit down with past issues and take as many notes as you can about the words they use, the types of articles they feature, and who is their average reader. I can’t stress this enough. Nothing is more annoying than a pitch that is clearly not a fit for the magazine.

Bounce your pitches off other people. Don’t live in a bubble that your writing is perfect. Talk to other writers. Even try to write your pitch in a sentence and tell a friend about it. Get ideas from friends you trust. Every idea can be improved or tweaked. When I pitch ideas as a staff editor, my fellow editors always give me new angles to the story I’ve pitched. P.S. Are you wondering what a pitch is? It’s a few paragraphs of the story you want to sell.

Intern at a magazine. Boy, I wish I did this while I lived in New York City and went to NYU. I instead figured it out and started as an editorial assistant at 28. If I could go back and do it all over again, I would intern at my favorite mags and try to get a byline anywhere. VegNews has a fantastic internship program opened to anyone interested (you don’t have to be in college to apply). The application/interview process is very selective but it’s a great way to get your foot in the door.

One last misconception that I want to clear up.
Magazine writing, while short and exciting, is not any easier than screenwriting, novels, playwriting, or fiction. It’s hard work, my friends. Try writing a short, pithy paragraph in 50 words. Tough. Rejection is constant. And everyone will tell you that magazines are a dead format. So write for magazines because you love it. You live for it. The passion will get you much farther.

If you have any questions, I’d be happy to answer them in the comments section. Thanks! Happy magazine reading!

What YA I’ve Just Read: HUNTRESS by Malinda Lo


After “meeting” young adult author Malinda Lo on a Twitter #yalitchat one Wednesday evening (if you don’t know about #yalitchat, here’s some info), I requested an ARC (advanced reading copy) through her publisher of her book, HUNTRESS.

HUNTRESS tells the story of two 17-year-old girls, Kaede and Taisin, who are plucked out of school and chosen to go on a dangerous journey to the city of the Fairy Queen. Taisin is a sage who has an early vision of seeing herself and Kaede on an empty beach and she worries what her vision may mean for their future. As the adventure gets more treacherous, the girls become close, eventually falling in love. But the Kingdom only needs one huntress to save them. Who will it be?

This novel is a prequel to ASH and has details inspired by the I CHING.

I haven’t read ASH yet but HUNTRESS stands well on its own for someone who is just diving in. Lo writes beautifully. The details of her world are lush, stark, and otherworldly all at the same time. What I admired about the novel is the relationship between Kaede and Taisin and their lesbian love story. The love story is central to the book but no one in the world of the novel is shocked by their relationship. I like how their love grows slowly in time and becomes not only a strong friendship but a blossoming first love for both of them.

I won’t give away any spoilers for the end of the book but the only thing I will say about the end is that I felt like two separate endings. I had reached one point that I thought was the end but then the novel continued on. Otherwise, I loved what I read. Kick-ass female characters? Check. Beautiful writing? Check. Had me hooked? Yes!

HUNTRESS by Malinda Lo is out in bookstores in April 2011. Be sure to pick up your copy when it comes out!

Applying for an MFA in Writing

A blog reader recently contacted me about applying to New York University’s Tisch School of the Arts Dramatic Writing Department since I went there for my BFA and MFA in dramatic writing. I’ll preface this by saying that I graduated 10 years ago so I don’t exactly have a handle on exactly what they are looking for in terms of applications. (I applied back when SAT scores were still sent over on paper.) The advice I give is strictly what I think and in no way is endorsed by NYU or the Dramatic Writing Department.

I’ll share a portion of my reader’s question and part of my answer. I hope my answer applies to more than just NYU but all writing programs.

Reader Question: I liked your response to the concerned parent of a student focused on television writing [SEE ORIGINAL POST HERE] and was wondering if you could share some of your experiences on the DWP application and admissions process. Could you provide some insight on what types of materials submitted for your app and, if you were called for an interview, how did it go? Also, do you think it would be unwise to email someone like Charlie Rubin to get some more information about the program?

My Answer:
What I can advise you is the most important part of your application is your writing sample. Hands down. Yes, good grades, transcripts, scores, etc. are important too, but since it’s a writing school, the writing sample is king. Make sure that the writing sample is the best writing you’ve got. Have other friends read it (people you trust to read your work) and go with what you think are your best pieces. All I can stress is that it should be your best work. Don’t send in a TV writing sample, even if that’s what you want to concentrate in, if it’s not the BEST work you have. I say this because they are looking at how you write a story, is it dramatic, can you write characters. If you can do that, then you can learn TV writing, screenwriting, playwriting. Don’t email Charlie directly, unless you know him personally. They have tons of applicants to the program and are busy working writers so don’t email him.

And when you get into the department (and I hope that you do), my best advice is that while you’re at NYU write your butt off and enjoy every minute. Don’t expect to graduate and have a full-time TV writing job (though some of my friends did) but what you can expect is that you’ll meet great writers, have amazing professors, and be exposed to the arts in one of the best cities in the world. Break a leg!

Reaching Your Goals, Part 2

In my last post I shared how I reflect on the year and then look forward to what I want in the coming year. Now, here’s Part 2 of my Reaching Your Goals post. It’s a little bit more involved than Part 1, which is why I broke it up.

I call it my Life Plan (here’s a handy Word document template). I break up my life into areas that I want to focus on so for 2010, it was
1) Writing
2) Crafts
3) Health
4) Financial

Under each category, I break it down into goals I want to achieve and underneath each goal, steps I’m going to take to achieve it. I also put months next to those goals so I give myself a timeline to achieve them. I’ll give a few examples from my own 2010 Life Plan and break it down so you can see what I did.


Under Health, I wrote:

• Run a 10K and train

Under Crafts, I wrote:
• Launch my Etsy shop, Typecraft, on Etsy.com – May 2010
• Research how to open an Etsy shop – Feb. 2010
• Budget money for expenses – March 2010
• Design earrings, necklaces, bracelets, rings – March & April 2010
• Get the word out – May 2010

Truth be told, sometimes those dates got bumped back. I didn’t open my Etsy shop until October 2010 but I had the other steps in place so I was able to launch it with pieces designed and ready to sell.

What I like about doing this exercise is that I’m sitting down and figuring out what I want to do. This isn’t a to-do list. This is my life and what I want. This is you telling yourself these are the areas of my life that I want to move forward in and this is how I’m going to do it. To some, this may seem a bit too organized (I’m the lady who loves walking through the Container Store) but I hope you find it useful.

I’ll tell you two things that came out of my Life Plan that totally surprised me. One of my financial goals in 2009 was to buy a house. I even wrote a month next to it. April 2009. Brendan and I closed on a house in LA in April 2009. We sold it a year later to move up to the San Francisco Bay Area but I reached one of my goals. To own a house. The second thing that surprised me: running a half-marathon. One of my first health goals was to run a 5K, then a 10K, then a half-marathon, which at the time seemed nearly impossible. For two years in a row, I ran a 5K. The thought of running a 10K scared me but I kept putting it on my Life Plan. Finally this year I ran a 10K in July. After I conquered that, I thought, well, I’ve been training hard, let’s keep going. And that’s how I finished a half-marathon. You’ll see that once you hit one goal, it inspires more, and pretty soon you’re doing exactly what you set out to do.

So here you go, my simple steps to combating your writing fears/worries/jealousy. I’d love to hear some of your Life Plan goals or what you realized about yourself after writing down what you’ve done in 2010.

Have a happy & wonderful new year!

Reaching Your Goals, Part 1

I had a wonderful response to my honest-yet-uncomfortable blog post about writing jealousy. I loved everyone’s comments and the fact that for writers and other creatives, jealousy can be an uncomfortable truth. Here’s how I combat that problem.

In that post, I mentioned that I would share what I do to attain my writing/life goals. It’s something I started about 3 years ago at the end of the year, and since the new year is just around the corner, I’ll do it again. I first learned these goal exercises from a women’s writing group, which helped me immensely. I’m breaking up this post into 2 parts.

For this exercise, I created a Word document you can use (click here). I normally just write these dates and months in my journal. Feel free to use whatever method works best for you. To start, write down all the months from 2010 and then 2011. January 2010, February 2010, March 2010, etc. Then repeat with 2011. In the 2010 column, write down in each month significant events that happened to you, whether it be writing related or personal. Like for me, I moved to the Bay Area in April 2010 and our house in LA sold in July 2010 so I would write these events down next to the appropriate month. Write down everything, good and bad. Then for the coming year, jot down things you’d like to achieve in those coming months. Yes, I know you have no idea what you’re even doing this weekend, let alone August 2011, but trust me, just write down notes to yourself. Even if some months are blank. Like for me, I want to finish an outline of a new YA book by February 2011, so that’s what I’d write down.

Now that you’ve written everything down, take a look at yourself and give yourself a pat on the back. Look at how much you’ve accomplished in 2010 and overcame and look what you have to look forward to in 2011. When a new year rolls around, we tend to think about 1) losing weight 2) doing better 3) what we don’t have. With this exercise, you’re reflecting back on what you have done and what you will achieve. It’s much more helpful to say, “This year, I finished a draft of my book, celebrated a wedding anniversary, and traveled to Europe,” than to say, “I want to lose 25 pounds next year.”

I think what’s been the most helpful to me is to celebrate my accomplishments. My very own, not somebody else’s. I’m very much the person who is planning 10 steps ahead rather than looking back and saying, hey I did that, cool. This exercise helps me refocus my goals and see what I have achieved and what I want to achieve. I hope this helps you too.

Special thanks to SJ Hodges and the Wednesday Writers Group for introducing me to this easy yet wonderful writing exercise.